When both people in a relationship don’t want to travel…

If you love travel, you simply love travel. It is not only your fierce obsession but it gives you a purpose to life if you don’t quite fit into the niche of parent and mortgage payer. 

Sure we all dream of meeting a soul mate who feels the same way we do about travel and heading off into the sunset together with our backpacks, holding hands.

  
But what happens if you meet a potentially perfect partner, settle down and start planning a future together, only to find out that your partner does not share the same passion for travel as you do?

This is a very common issue. It is acceptable to society to break off a relationship if your partner doesn’t want children and you do, so why should this be any different. A desire to travel is not just a hobby, it is a lifestyle. So if you are in a relationship that prevents you from travelling because it is not your partners wish to, you are not being true to yourself.

There are solutions, however. If you really love your partner and see a future with them regardless of their lack in sharing the same life choices as you, you should still try to make it work. You could try to move abroad together and start a new lifestyle. If this is not an option, maybe you can split your own time between travelling and being at home with your partner. You will definitely need a very strong relationship for either of these to work.

Looking at it a little deeper, you may need to assess your relationship. Find out the real reasons your partner does not want to travel. It actually could be that they are not truthfully happy in the relationship with you and committing to a gap year away with you frightens them. Or, it could be other issues at home holding them back. Either way, it is a problem.

You should also look at yourself and really figure out if a life without travel is an option and if you value a loving relationship more than travel.

The love I have in a relationship is very different to the love I have for travel. For me, travel is a journey with myself. Therefore, to have to give that up to be with the person I love would mean I was no longer… myself.